Before The Girl started her first year in school, never would I have thought that I would be facing problems. Filled with confidence, I thought she would be how she is outside school - chatty, friendly, full of energy, eager...like a lemon bursting with zest, ah something like that lah. Instead, we had to go through tantrumic-angry "i hate school" attitude almost the whole of nursery year. She is meek, quiet, not so sociable. Totally the opposite of who she is.
We requested to change AM session so I can deal with her instead of her Nenek. She was all good this year and then August, wham bam back to screams and tearfuls 'NO! I hate school, I don't want to study! I don't want to go back to school!'
After much probing and investigating whether she was bullied etc, she revealed that one day she was left in the bathroom all alone, her buddy had ran out and she claimed nobody remembered she was in there. I am sure left her quite traumatized by the incident.
After weeks of battles and skipping school, the teacher and I came up with a reward system for the days she goes to school. She was doing good at token #4 when she decided she cares for no tokens anymore. I was at my wits end to this problem. I bait her with gifts and offerings. Refused to those offers. I took away all her privileges; no more tv time, no more ipads, threatening to throw away her toys, total lock down at home. She dared me with a "go ahead". I screamed and screamed one morning. I screamed at everyone else at home. Nobody was spared.
One hour after my meltdown, a change of mind and she wanted to go. She claimed she felt sick in the stomach seeing me sobbing uncontrollably in a mess. Shoving aside the negative outburst earlier on, we skipped to school happily.
Upon reaching school an hour late, her teachers (celebrating teachers' day that day mind you!) face lit up seeing the girl. All hugs and kisses when one of the teachers saw me standing, eyes all puffed up and red; asked "are you ok, are you crying??"
I just broke down; right in the middle of her class. Thank god the kids were in the other class! I wonder what would they think seeing this Makcik crying her ass off hahaha. They rushed over to me and said aww this mummy deserve our hugs.
Never felt so much love before...from that many teachers hugging and patting and kissing my head. :(
So i thought a token should be given back to the teachers. I salute them for their patience and their big hearts to handle bajellion kids. I can't even handle my 2, pfft.
I can never thank you enough.
For now, I might send the girl to the PD and see what the next step will be.
This episode left me quite weary and wary of the next kid.
Good luck October, come at me, bring it.
*curls up fist into boxer position; all bruised and battered*